Reservations !

Just right opposite to my house in New Delhi, Kalkaji there lives a SC/ST family. It is a poor family, lives in a single room with tin roof shelter and they have 5 kids to dwell. The eldest of 5 kids passed her 12 exams successfully this year and got a decent percentage of about 60 %. I admire her marks given her living conditons. Now this girl, wants to really pursue further education.

In this highly competitive world, and in the country where the ratio of number of students and seats in the college is highly disturbing, it is quite obvious that right to study has become restricted to affluents. Students from middle class and upper class are now a days pampered like anything. They get right atmosphere to study or I would say more than right, best schools, highly nutritous food, millions of tutions and all the other comforts of life. Even after all this, if they dont do well in the exams, many parents are ready with the money also. How can an average student from the lower class can compete with the middle class and upper class students ?

Now that girl because of reservation got through BA, hindi (H) program of Lady Shri Ram College, one of the most reputed college of Delhi University. Had not been seats reserved for them, it would not have been ever possible for her to get admission. I have seen the girl growing and she is hardworking. She did perform decent (upto their standards) during class 10th boards also.

I am really very happy for her. Also, I appreciate her passion for studying. I have seen and known people who even after all comforts didn't study. What I am skpectical about right now, if she will be able to cope up with the studies over there and also LSR girls are really smart. Will she be able to stand amongst them ?

I was totally against reservation until I lived through the above incident. People who live normal middle class life and still avails the benifits of reservation, is an eyesore.

Bitter Truth !

Life of a couple starts revolving around their child as soon as they give birth to it. The family gets complete and they get a new aim in life. They start spending most of their middle aged energy in developing the future of their child and in nourishing them to become a good human being. And most importantly they do all this without any selfishness and with love & caring attitude.

BUT as soon as the child turns into adult, he flies from the nest leaving parents lonely. Child has turned into adult full of energy, forms new friends, gets married and starts building his own family. Parents who have spend their all middle aged life in forming the future of their children are now old, lonely and retired from work too.

Children do remember their parents, feel love for them, feel the responsibilty but it may get difficult to fulfil as they get bounded by new responsibilities and are too engrossed in it. It is impractical to say that child shouldnt form new family in his adulthood.

One might say that the humans responsibility on this earth is to just keep human beings breed alive on the planet. So as soon as the child gets mature, the role of parents end on this planet. It might turn out to be hard to digest for the breed that has brain and is full of emotions.

I feel that it is the bitter truth of life and most of the parents go through that phase. I feel one solution to handle this phase of life is to find new aim in life that keeps one busy.It might be in the form of religious, social, teaching, learning etc activities. It is hard for the parents whose health doesnt support them to get involved in these activities also :(

Also, irrespective of how busy parents try to keep themselves, at the end of the day they might miss all the huslte bustle of their middle aged life. Happy smiling memories become stick of their old age. Its like lull after storm.

These were my few thoughts on the topic.

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Kids

So finally sri ganesh of my much wanted desire of having blogs ... I always liked reading other people blogs, I pen down my thougts but never got enough motivavtion to blog it ... probably it was my just laziness or I should be happy for the moment as my laptop not is working, otherwise I would have just written one more informal file into my folder :)

The topic of my first blogs is "why to have kids ?" It was a family get together and over there, there was some discussion going upon kids and that made me think seriously upon this topic as a parent. It has been a while since I am thinking about this topic but never thought about it as seriously as I did it yesterday.

'BABY' is a simple bio product formed and all breed & species of animal give birth to their younger ones. Every parent love their kids, take care of them irrespective of species of animal.

When life evolved, human parents were also just similar to any other animal parent. It was a product formed due to opposite sex attraction. But are the things same with humans still ? In the biological process, yes. Love and affection for the kids, yes. But may be different in the way human child is brought up, and most importantly, human child is no more an unaware product and birth of human child is controllable.

Then why couple still want a kid ? Present couples don't run out of the fear that if they will not reproduce then it will lead to end of human race.

Does it act as an adhesive for binding the couple together forever?Or they want a kid on which they can bank upon in their tough times? Is it a sign of love between a couple? Or does they want to have it as it will give a sense of maturity, adulthood ?

Is it the genuine love, affection they feel for kids ? Normally people really like kids, and thus they wish to have their own. It is really a joyous moment to see them when they do cute things, when they talk, when they walk, when they do naughty things, etc. I also enjoy these moments. But having a child is not about the cuteness, it is a responsibility of blooming the seed into the flower with the desire of imparting the best colors to it.

Is it a need in terms of old man stick? If yes, then I would term it to as bad selfish desire.


It is been often said that kids form the family which gives satisfaction, parents work hard for their kids, kids form parents happiness etc. Is it this society mindset that flows inside most of us and has been so much engraved inside our beliefs that we feel incomplete family if we don't have kids ?

Or may be, it is simply a human nature to have kids which is more than a byproduct of physical attraction and something that cant be tampered.

These are some of my questions and thoughts on "why kids", may be with time my mind set will also take colors of society mind set on this topic or will show the sign of human nature.