BUT as soon as the child turns into adult, he flies from the nest leaving parents lonely. Child has turned into adult full of energy, forms new friends, gets married and starts building his own family. Parents who have spend their all middle aged life in forming the future of their children are now old, lonely and retired from work too.
Children do remember their parents, feel love for them, feel the responsibilty but it may get difficult to fulfil as they get bounded by new responsibilities and are too engrossed in it. It is impractical to say that child shouldnt form new family in his adulthood.
One might say that the humans responsibility on this earth is to just keep human beings breed alive on the planet. So as soon as the child gets mature, the role of parents end on this planet. It might turn out to be hard to digest for the breed that has brain and is full of emotions.
I feel that it is the bitter truth of life and most of the parents go through that phase. I feel one solution to handle this phase of life is to find new aim in life that keeps one busy.It might be in the form of religious, social, teaching, learning etc activities. It is hard for the parents whose health doesnt support them to get involved in these activities also :(
Also, irrespective of how busy parents try to keep themselves, at the end of the day they might miss all the huslte bustle of their middle aged life. Happy smiling memories become stick of their old age. Its like lull after storm.
These were my few thoughts on the topic.
Very true. In fact, as the apt title of your blog says, this is a "bitter truth". Very bitter and very true.
ReplyDeleteYou have done a good analysis of both the sides: on one hand there are parent who have spent every minute of their 20 years caring for you, and on the other hand their is the kid who really loves his/her parents, but at the same time, he has other responsibilities too. If the child is completely devoted to his parents, that also leads to dangerous consequences.
In an ideal world, a child should take good care his parents, and still be able to take good care of his other responsibilities. It is very tough, but hopefully not impossible!
Hey u r rite about bth sides of the coin. BUt its like a lifecylce that every person has go through ...we would also probably..so the best thing like in the previus comment is to try and maintain a good balance..never forgrt what your parents have done for you and defnitely take care of them as best as you can but at the same time one needs to fulfil their own duties and have their own life....cz as you know time is short and there are many things to do .:)
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ReplyDeleteI think then it is a vicious cycle...and I think it would be also good to analyse this in two different time periods: current and previous generations. It is much more true for current generation than proby 2 generations back. Nevertheless quite interesting and we now realise it..time to put in practice :)
ReplyDeleteLol..but economists are funny ppl..we read a paper that was quite contrary to this..the paper argued that for parents also children are an Investment good..